You know those times when you have a disagreement or a misunderstanding, emotions are running high, no one is listening, people are defensive and you have to walk away? Or maybe it’s a just a dysfunctional, screwed up relationship that you are tired of and want to change or walk away from. Often there is just no getting through to people in the moment.

Think about writing the other party a letter. A well written letter can produce powerful results. It can:

• Save reputations, friendships and jobs
• Resolve differences
• Allow you to walk away with dignity

Why write a letter?

• You will have time to collect your thoughts and think carefully about what you want to say.
• You will avoid getting into an argument before you’ve had a chance to make your case or say your piece.
• You can say everything you want to say without being interrupted or getting sidetracked.

You will have a much better chance of getting through to someone with a carefully crafted note than you ever will with a confrontational stance. Unless you’re a bully but that’s another post. 

A letter will:

• Allow the recipient time and privacy to think about your words.
• Give the recipient an opportunity to be as thoughtful about their reply.
• Permit you both to save face if there are things you regrettably said or did.

If you have tried repeatedly to talk to someone about a problem between you, to no avail; If it’s too hard to say things to their face or they interrupt or don’t really listen, a letter may be just the thing to spark a breakthrough and change things.

Sometimes it’s the best way to say things that are really hard to say.

Writing powerful and persuasive letters is one of my specialties and I’ve helped a lot of people communicate difficult things in writing. If you have a situation you think might be addressed well in writing and you don’t know quite how to begin or how to set the tone that will allow you to be heard, by all means call me and let’s work on it together. I seriously love this stuff and it gets results.

What do you have to say?

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