Sometimes you just have to go with your gut about what feels right despite what others may be saying.  Okay, that sounds like I’m talking about resisting peer pressure to do drugs or something. No. I’m talking about when someone tells you you don’t have to do something but you know it’s the right thing. Sometimes we don’t want to inconvenience others so we say, “no, you don’t have to, it’s alright, I’ll be fine”, etc. 

The father of a  close friend passed away last month. Services were planned for mid-week and since they live five hours away, my friend did not expect me to make the trip. She flat out told me not to come. She had a lot of family around her and she would have been alright but I just knew in my gut that being with her was the right thing.

I made the trip and stayed at her house even though I had family in the area. I told her not to bother cleaning the guest room or making food as I didn’t want to add to her burden. We went to calling hours Wed, the funeral service on Thursday and back to her mom’s house afterward for food. Her husband and daughter, brothers and sister were there as well as lots of cousins. I could easily have used her insistence that she didn’t need me as justification for staying home but she and I are close and I wanted to be there. 

The bottom line is that she had not realized how much it would comfort her to have me there. I just received a note from her saying exactly that. It meant so much to her hat I made the trip to be there with her at that really sad time. She appreciated the company, moral support (even to the extent of consulting me on her clothes!) and the fact that I was such an easy guest.

The saying goes, “you don’t know what you’ve got til it’s gone.” but sometimes you don’t know what you need til it’s there.  Know what I mean?

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