Have you ever been hurt, disappointed or let-down in some way by a someone you care about? Okay, dumb question, we all have been at some point in our lives. It happens all the time. One of the things that’s really bugging me lately is people thinking, “I didn’t mean to” is a valid defense.

Somehow, many people believe that if they didn’t intentionally set out to hurt another person, then they did nothing wrong. I disagree. Ever heard the word “negligence“? It’s definition is “a failure to take proper care in doing something”, resulting in damage or injury to another.

We usually hear the term negligence used in lawsuits or court cases involving bodily injury or death. Those are worst case scenarios. And even though we often hurt only the feelings of another person, this is still negligence. Taking action with complete disregard for how that action will affect others is negligence. No matter how you qualify the resulting damage.

Next time you are faced with a decision, really think it through. Refer to my post http://www.whatwouldlisasay.com/blog/?p=29 to understand the difference between thinking about it and thinking it through. Consider not only what is right for you but how your decision will effect other people. What pleases one person may have negative ramifications for someone else. When you “take proper care” with the feelings of others, you will be really pleased to find yourself causing a lot less hurt.

And if you’re not sure of what to do, try asking the folks involved for their input. What you think might upset someone, may in fact be no problem at all. By asking them how they feel and inviting their input, you will show them you are considering their feelings. This will go a long way, especially if your final decision is not something they are thrilled with.

But I wasn’t trying to hurt you” a friend or loved one might say. And that is probably true. But what if they had taken reasonable care before-hand to ensure they would NOT hurt you?

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